How To Build Good Habits

Success is not a thing that just comes over night, it is a result of hard work and good habits. The big problem is that in this time it is so hard to create good habits and stick with them because of all the distractions around us. You might be asking yourself now: How do I build good habits? Well here are some tips to help you do just that.

Create “micro quotas” and “macro goals”

You will see this advice popup everywhere, and that is not a coincidence. There have been many scientific studies conducted on this topic and they all came to the conclusion that this method really works, “macro goals” is some big picture that you want to accomplish in the future, for example let is say that your “macro goal” is to write a book and get it published. And “micro quotas” are small individual steps you need to take every day in order to complete your long term goal, for example let us say that your “micro quota” is to write 1000 words per day. Step by step, day by day, you will finish your book.

Eliminate redundant options

Something that can stop you in your way to building good habits is just having to make a number of decisions throughout the day. You should not waste your energy on deciding what to eat or what to wear. For eating you can make a schedule and just stick to it.

Get rid of “ah screw it” moments

Big problem that come for many people is that they build their habits and after about two weeks say: Ah screw it! The key to eliminating those moments is to see what is making you quit in the first place, and trying to fix that, if it is a matter of will power you just have to remain to be strong.

The Top 3 Ways To Quit Smoking For Good

 Smoking is one of the hardest habits to get rid of. But the truth is smoking is so damaging to your health that the need to stop it is both necessary and urgent. But why is it so hard to quit smoking? There are two reasons for this. First of all, nicotine is addictive. It gives the brain a feel good high that makes this habit so addictive in the first place. Second it becomes a psychological habit over time. Aside from the tangible, physical effects of nicotine to the brain, you also associate the feel-good high as a kind of relief when you are tense, nervous, or bored. This is why when you are tensed, you habitually light a cigarette, not just for the craving for nicotine but out of habit.

Here are the best ways to kick the habit of smoking for good.

  1. Have a plan – it is easy to say you want to quit but without a plan, you are doom to fail the moment the withdrawal symptoms kick in. First thing in your “plan” is to set a quit date. Ideally set it two weeks from the day you decide to quit. This will give you time to prepare. Tell your friends and family too. This will allow them to support your decision. You can even have a friend who also wants to quit. You can support each other. Always anticipate a bumpy ride ahead. Prepare for the worse and expect your body to resist the changes you will be doing in the next few weeks.
  1. Follow some practical steps to make quitting easier – Remove cigarettes in your car, room, and office. This will keep you focused on your efforts never to light a cigarette again. If you do not see a cigarette, you do not have to flirt with your addiction. Lastly, talk to your doctor and ask for help. There are medications and other alternatives to smoking that can help you transition smoothly.
  2. Manage your cravings –Make no mistake that your craving to smoke will visit you often even after weeks of being smoke-free. How to deal with this? Distract yourself. Do some house chores, watch TV, go out biking, do everything and anything to get smoking out of your mind. You can also remind yourself why you quit – it could be your desire to live longer, to get rid of a persistent cough, or the money you will end up saving. You can also choose to reward yourself. Successfully resisted the urge to light up? Treat yourself with an ice cream or a night out with friends.

How to Build a Habit of Approaching Women

Approaching women is very challenging for many men. The unknowns are just too many and the risks are too great. So how can a man build a habit of approaching women and striking a conversation with them? In the world of dating this is a million dollar question and here are some million dollar ideas you can think about.

You need to accept rejection as part of life

Toronto dating coach Mars Blacc says that, “Rejection is the essential building block of success.”  Not only is rejection part of life, it is necessary to achieve success later on. Without rejection you simply cannot understand what you are doing wrong and what you need to improve. Failures are building blocks of success and rejection is the same thing. You need to be rejected a little bit more before finally getting the “yes” that you wanted from the very beginning. So go out there and take your chances.

Courage is doing it anyway

Even the most confident guys and those that have approached women many times before still feel the tension and jitters every now and then. The nerves are normal. The secret is to develop the ability to control the nervousness and just get through with it. After the first few lines it will all flow naturally. Meeting women is acknowledging the fear but understanding the fact that fear is nothing compared to the rewards of talking to a gorgeous girl.

Overcome your ego

Cold-approaching is one of the most difficult things to do as a man. Approaching a hot random girl you do not know in the street is all about confronting your ego, your confidence issues. When you do not get past this wall, chances are you will have a hard time building a habit of walking up to a girl as often as want to. By just trusting yourself more and building up your self-worth above the pain and humiliation associated with rejection, you are on your way of being carefree about talking to a woman anywhere, anytime.